Everyone wants to have a positive dating experience. Once you overcome the awkwardness of the first date, it should be smooth sailing as you get to know each other. That isn’t always the case, especially if you’re dating an amputee. The stage of awkward questioning might last a little bit longer, depending on who you’re out with. While it’s important to be sensitive to the situation your date is in, it’s natural to feel curious. So, we’re going to talk a little bit about how you can have a successful amputee dating experience, without looking like a jerk.
The first thing you need to do is let go of any misconceptions you may have. There are all kinds of myths floating around about what restrictions an amputee or a disabled person face. Pay no attention to these myths. Most of them are false. If your date has any restrictions because of their amputation, they will let you know. Or, you can ask. Before making the arrangements for the date, consider asking if there are any restrictions you should take into consideration. Your date will know what he/she is capable of better than anyone else.
It may feel awkward for both of you, but it may also me necessary. Don’t be afraid of coming across as silly or disrespectful by asking what may be one your mind. As mentioned before, it’s completely natural to feel curious. There are going to be people who are completely open and willing to talk about their amputation. There are going to be others who don’t want it being brought up. You can’t tell who these people are before the questions are asked. If your date doesn’t want to talk about his/her amputation, hopefully they will let you know. At that point, don’t continue with your questions. You don’t want your date to feel uncomfortable. You want things to go well.
You also want to respect their feelings and boundaries. It’s good to keep in mind that whether you’re dating an amputee, or someone who is able bodied, we’re all the same. Each of us face challenges. Each of us want to be respected. So don’t be inappropriate. Don’t be judgmental. Take the time to listen to your date. When you ask a question, listen to the answer. The old saying to treat others how you want to be treated comes into play here. When you’re on a date, regardless of who, being respectful is important.
The most important thing you can do is relax. If you worry too much about making a bad first impression, or saying something stupid, you will. Dating is a nerve wracking experience, for everyone. Keep that in mind. Your date is going to be just as nervous as you are. In fact, as an amputee trying to date, she/he will be more nervous than you. So don’t make it worse for yourself, or for them. You just have to be yourself.
That’s the best way to have a successful amputee dating experience.